Here i am, back again at my rant wall if you will, recording the recent events that has actually occurred in my life. I promised a friend, well not exactly a new friend, just a recently turned good buddy that I will update this blog. Apparently she's a fan of my writing, and so due to popular(ummm... not really) demand, here I am back at the wall that has been neglected for quite some time.
Events has occurred since my last post, I don't know where to start but working life started to hit reality when I went to Surabaya to attend a friend's wedding. It was the first time that my group of buddies and I actually went out together, and I, being the usual "whatever comes, will come", didn't know what to expect. My assurance was in the fact that I'm actually going to a very unfamiliar territory with people that I know. I guess there's really no expectations there. So here goes the narration of the experience from then, and hopefully till now...
So the wedding was amazing, with anecdotes of the bride and groom's childhood, courting period and up to their mentors (parents, etc) who sculpted them to the person that they had become. The wedding was indeed, as I've told clarizza, filled with "Aww, Ouww, and Eeewwww!!" haha... I guess it is the normal reaction in every wedding. Everything from the most heart-moving to the relatively barfing information was disclosed. The bride and groom were, I guess, perfect for each other. This made me to think that there is no such thing as the perfect couple in this world. The "perfect" couple is determined and judged by the people around them. To the by-standers, the couple might just be perfect for each other, but I believe that behind the curtains, it actually took a lot of effort and giving in to produce such a dynamic personality. The challenge is to actually make the ppl you care about as perfect as they can be by supporting and accommodating them. It takes a really wide generosity and tons of patience to be able to relent to your partner and make the best out of the worst situation.
Consolation for me, which is kinda heart-warming, was the fact that I was able to meet people that I wouldn't meet on a daily/weekly basis. We used to spend time together back in college, but truthfully working life and college life are parallel to each other. Every now and then, if we are lucky, we'll find an intersection point and actually meet. This was one of those points. To me, my life priority has always been family, friends, career, health then money. Family comes first as always, no matter what you do, albeit the dumbest mistake of your life, your family will always be there to support you. They will be the first people to prevent you from making a fool out of yourself. Let's face it, friends come and goes, relationships arrives and departs, but family stays closely knitted. They are the people who will actually accept you unconditionally, without regrets. Maybe they will complain and whine every now and then, but ask yourself this "do you deserve it?". More often than not, you actually owe it to yourself that you're a dumbass and that friends might get disappointed and leave ya, but family stays with you no matter what. The "related-by-blood" theory is partially true in this case. Although I think there are still a lot of boundaries to be tested, but for this instance it is true, family will always be there when others desert you. Unless you have a crappy family, then it is a whole different issue, serve you right for having a sucky family! hahaha...
Oh... and by the way, during the wedding I had actually realized that make up can backfire as well. You can put on as much make up as you want, sometimes making yourself more hideous than when you started. A message for all the people who wear make up, you can never go wrong with just a touch-up. Any more than that, and you'll look even worse than a chimpanzee. hahaha... thought it'll be funny to share this with my audience.
So right after family, comes friends. Friends to me are very important. As we all probably had known, I spent most of my life away from my family. Perhaps the time I've spent outside is more than half of my life. Not that my family doesn't give a crap about me, just that I finally understood (after recent events), that the sacrifices they have made is actually worthwhile. I became what i am today, entirely owed to my family and friends. Now for the 14 years away from the family, my friends has replaced my family's position to fill my void. Although it may seem that my loyalty is divided, my stupid dumbass chinese education disallowed me to put friends before family. Not that I'm not grateful for what my friends had done for me, I am sincerely thankful for my friends who had accompanied me through difficult and lonely times. So, coming back to the main topic, I had cherished the time I've spent with my friends throughout the short trip. The party was excellent, but the companion was even more brilliant.
It is true that you can't have a party alone. That just proves how much a loser/loner you are, simply pathetic. In this instance, I wasn't alone at all. I had some of my best buddies with me. The beginning was kinda slow and quiet, but alcohol served it purpose and the atmosphere loosen up a bit. It was then I was introduced to the world of night life, where intoxication and sex goes hand-in-hand. It was a real eye opener for me. First of all, the nightclubs were more laid back than those we usually visit. The server were more friendly, and atmosphere was really cool. The girls were actually extremely aggressive. I mean, I'm not discrediting them, nor am I demeaning them because of their opinion. I actually respected them for the measures they will actually go in order to survive in this cruel world. Working life has enlightened me of how much effort and energy my parents had to put out just to put me through school. Thanks mom and pops! In a nutshell, working life sucks, it'll suck even more when you have minimum wage and trying not to give up any of the high expenditure lifestyle that you used to lead. The girls were actually coming on to you, be it local, Thai, Chinese, etc. They speak barely comprehendible broken english, but you can't really blame them. The fact that they chose their line of occupation proves that the level of education they had receive was at a minimum. I don't blame them for their barely passing communication skill, it is their spirit that actually earned my respect. They had to like their customers, be it wily old fox or an inexperienced virgin. They have to come up with 1001 methods to get close to their customers for that little extra pay that may or may not lurk at the end of the day. Their patience and work ethics are commendable.
Aside from the alcohol and the girls, the party was great. We had plenty of fun, alcohol is a wonderful ice breaker that can actually loosen up the atmosphere and let you get to know your company better than when you were sober. For that, I raise a glass to the married couple, wishing you all the best in your marriage, have the duration of an old sequoia tree and as harmonious as the leafs in fall. It is a new life, where two souls actually become one, and there will be a lot of accommodating to do. Good luck and all the best. For those of you getting married, the same message goes to you. For those of you who have been single for more than 3 years, look at yourself in the mirror, THERE IS DEFINITELY SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU!!! hahaha...
Right now as I'm writing this, I have already experienced a totally different situation from the one in SBY. For more updates, you gotta stay curious, let's grab an arsenal of weapon and kill that bloody monkey....
